Lately, I’ve been hearing from my friends that I’m a good listener. That was surprising to me as I always try to keep up with chats and add to conversations, I never try to listen, I always try to add something. But, I came to realization that I’m a good a listener; good listener unconsciously.

I was listening to a repairman, who I was selling some electronic parts to, and he had a riveting story and I was fascinated by it. Then suddenly something hit me. I was listening to it without adding a word or interrupting him. I was a good listener to his story.

I listened to him without realizing how much time has passed and I didn’t even think about anything else. Didn’t try to convince him I know about anything, didn’t try to talk about similar situations I’ve experienced, and didn’t try to make a conversation. I just enjoyed his story, effortlessly.

I realized I’m a good listener because I love a good story. I can sit and listen to you for hours when you catch my attention with a compelling story.

A man was in a hurry. He was going to buy some groceries and then heading to his office. Putting his car in reverse after buying the groceries, he gets distracted by the loud music that suddenly starts to play in the car.

While going in reverse, he hits a delivery guy’s motorcycle and breaks a part of it. He gets out of his car and apologizes to the delivery guy. He also asks how much does it cost to replace the broken part. Delivery guy says it’ll be twenty bucks.

He gives the guy the money and goes to work. When he comes back home at night, his wife asks him if he had an accident today. He, surprised that his wife knows, tells her yes, and explains how he hit a motorcycle.

His wife tells him that a guy came to the house. The guy told the wife that he found the address asking the grocery store. He gave 5 bucks back to the wife telling her that the broken piece took only 15 dollars to repair and he came by to give back the 5 bucks he received more.

The story brought back my faith in humanity.

The post has many spoilers about various movies and TV series. The list includes:
* The Invention of Lying
* House (TV series)
* Lucifer (TV series)
* Supernatural (TV series)

Everybody lies, right? I was thinking about this. Small or big, everybody lies and life goes on. You may lie about how far are you from the restaurant, like telling people you’ll be there in 5 when you actually will be there in 10. You may lie about killing people, like when you lie when you’re a psychopath murderer and cannibal and you lie to the court. The point is everybody lies.

But is lying always bad?Like if I tell someone that she’s beautiful just to make her happy, did I do a wrong thing? I know I shouldn’t lie about my work experience when I’m applying as a neurosurgeon while my only work experience is none, but what about lying when you really don’t want to visit some friends at the moment so you tell them you’re busy so you don’t hurt their feelings?

In the movie The Invention of Lying, Mark starts lying when his mom is dying. Nobody can lie in that alternative reality, nobody. Mark (Ricky Gervais) starts lying when his mom, in hospital, tells him that she’s scared of dying. She doesn’t want to go to an eternity of nothingness. Mark, trying to comfort his mom, tells her she’s wrong. He says it’s not an eternity of nothingness, rather you go to your favorite place in the whole world. There will be no pain, there’s love there, happiness, and everyone gets a mansion.

Was he wrong? In that alternative reality he lied to his mother and went on to lie to everybody else but did he do something wrong when he lied to his mother? And if yes, why? All he did was to tell a harmless lie to his mother to comfort her. She won’t realize it’s a lie, it’ll only help her to die peacefully.

Lying has a bad effect. I understand that. In the movie, Mark went on a journey of lying to everybody for his own benefits. Lying to casino about winning, lying to the bank about how much money he had, etc. but at that specific moment, did he do something wrong?

Lying is bad because it makes us lie and lie again to keep up with the first one. We will tell bigger lies as a result. But we do tell harmless little white lies every now and then. If you mom cooks for you and it tastes bad, you won’t tell her that, you’ll tell her it’s delicious. It’s a lie but you’ll protect her feelings. I don’t think it’s bad to lie about this. It makes her happy, and won’t harm anyone.

In the TV series House, there was an episode that Dr. House had a (if I recall right) pastor patient who was an atheist. The pastor hallucinated that he sees Jesus. House was amazed that an atheist could work in church, the pastor told him that he lied to the church and nobody knows that he’s an atheist. He managed to do his work perfectly, helped many people, earned an honest living, and became a good member of the society, all because he lied about one small detail.

I don’t think lying is good, I try my best to not lie, but is that little lie he told the church bad? He did his job with no problem as he was supposed to do. Nobody got hurt, nobody was harmed, and quite opposite, one or more people were more happy and in a better place as the result of this lie.

In the TV series Lucifer, Lucifer is famous for always telling the truth. It’s awesome. I always wanted to be able to do that. Always telling the truth is such an amazing ability to have. However, he managed to not answer somethings by asking a question in return, or changing the subject. I was thinking, isn’t that lying?

To lie is to give a false impression. So sometimes, giving only half the truth, or changing the subject, or asking a question in return, could be considered a lie. We all have something to hide. We have guilty pleasures, we have some people we like but not that much, we all have people who we love and don’t want to hurt their feelings, and so on, and we lie. It keeps the balance.

There will be chaos if we don’t lie. In an episode of TV series Supernatural, son of the devil will make everyone stop lying (warning: YouTube link). It causes chaos in a funny way but also the scene makes you think. It’s not possible to quit lying quickly, and it’s not possible to stop lying when you’ve said countless lies in your life, so is not-lying possible at all?

It’s a dream of mine to be able to not say even smallest lies. Being able to be truthful, honest, and straight with everybody is a dream. I personally believe there’s no harm in little lies we tell every day, such as “I’m fine” when someone asks us how we are, or telling your grandma that the dinner she cooked is delicious. There’s no harm in telling your children that tooth fairy puts money under their pillow or santa gives them presents. It’s OK to tell your children that storks bring babies.

But I still think it would be awesome if we could just tell the truth. Lying is not always bad and telling the truth is not always good. Lying is needed to balance our lives. A lie is a great story that someone ruined with truth. Barney Stinson said that.

Oh and wouldn’t it be funny if someone’s pants caught on fire when we sang liar, liar, pants on fire?

There’s nothing more human than

• Texting people you’re on your way when you’re actually not even dressed.
• Keep having hope when you know it’s not gonna happen/gonna happen.
• Promising God you’ll behave when you need something from him.
• Wandering around naked when nobody’s home.
• Feeling beautiful when you look at yourself in the mirror but feeling opposite when you see yourself in front camera.
• Wasting your money on something foolish when you need to spend on more serious stuff.
• Unlocking your phone and then locking it immediately.
• Looking at clock on your phone then forgetting the time right away.
• Setting up multiple alarms, each 5 minutes apart, in the morning.
• Lying about your age.
• Speaking your mind while joking but truly meaning it.
• Opening another bag of snacks when you finished one.
• Grabbing some fruit or sweets from the box when you’re placing it inside the fridge.
• Making lists of stupid stuff.
• Dreaming about what would you do if you had Jeff Bezos money.
• Imagining yourself in a race when you’re driving or walking in the sidewalk.
• Imagining yourself as a singer in the shower.
• Randomly counting your money in the wallet.
• Writing something on social networks and not posting it.
• Imagining you’re friends with someone famous or someone you look up to.
• Being indecisive on unimportant matters or details.
• Forgetting a specific thing when you know you know it, but right now that you need it, you forget about it.
• Being depressed about your future while you know you’re fine.
• Keep being calm and acting normal when you’re exploding from inside.
• Doing the exact opposite of what you advise people to do.
• Fantasizing about becoming a superhero.
• Bluffing.
• Imagining your wedding with a random person you see on street.
• Randomly removing your mobile screen protection and getting a new one.
• Being excited for your online order then being completely emotionless about it.
• Playing a music track on loop too much that you get sick of it and can never listen to it again.
• Forgetting what you’ve put in the list so you put it on again then you realize it’s duplicate so you remove it.
• Being excited about a change then realizing what you had before was better.
• Giving excuses to continue your behavior towards something when you know it’s just an excuse and you don’t really mean it or believe in it.
• Suddenly doubting everything in life.
• Forgetting why you were angry at someone/something but keeping your distance.
• Wanting to text someone but being afraid that you look cheesy.
• Trying to prove yourself to someone.
• Getting tired of proving yourself to people.
• Disagreeing with someone even if, deep down, you agree with that person.
• Not liking someone you don’t even met. You just don’t like the sound of that person.
• Answering someone’s messages just because you have to keep social manners but you don’t really want to answer.
• Leaving someone on ‘seen’, thinking you’ll answer later, but totally forget about it.
• Having a favorite set of outfit.
• Drinking something out of habit, not because you really like it.
• Suddenly starting to cry with no reason.
• Getting up and your brain decides you’re sad today.
• Getting up and thinking it’s a sad day but it turns out to be a really good day.
• Getting up hyped and happy then becoming the least-lucky person alive.
• Actually being afraid of flying (airplanes) but pretending you’re not.
• Reading an entire page of a book and then having to read it again because you can’t remember a word of it.
• Picking up something you dropped by your toes.
• Checking if something is expired by sniffing it.
• Holding your breath when the main character in the movie goes under water to see if you would survive in the same situation.
• Peeing in the shower.
• Accidentally sending a text to the person you’re talking about.
• Carrying too much from your car or somewhere so make it in one trip.
• Running to your room when you turn off the lights in living room so the monster won’t catch you.
• Drinking something out of the cap.
• Drinking directly from the bottle instead of pouring it into a cup.
• Trying to push down every color in those pens we all had.
• Spinning an apple by holding the stalk.
• Grabbing and cutting a leaf when you walk past a tree.
• Trying to put the light switch halfway.
• Trying to peel an orange in one go.
• Disassembling and then reassembling your pen and imagining it’s a gun or bomb.
• Not stepping on lines on sidewalks.
• Trying to go upstairs but using least steps as possible.
• Randomly opening the fridge when you’re bored and keep going at it every 10 minutes.
• Opening the microwave one second before the alarm goes off.
• Checking if you can do something faster than your shadow.
• Adapting an accent from someone you’re talking to.
• Reacting so fast that you think you’re an Avenger. You’ll test if you’ve became Spiderman or Dr. Strange.
• Writing something someone says instead of writing what you actually wanted to write.
• Sniffing your armpits to check if you smell.
• Going up on a slide instead of the stairs.
• Singling or talking into the fan like a robot.
• Drinking juice from a wine glass and pretending you’re drinking alcohol.
• Poking holes in the pencil eraser.
• Pretending you’re giving yourself a shot with those mechanical pencils.
• Fake sleeping.
• Smelling book pages.
• Closing the fridge door slowly so you can see when the lights go off.
• Trying to finish your drink at the same time as your cake/meal.
• Blow bubbles on your drink.
• Putting hair clip on your mouth.
• Using your hand as a cup when drinking water.
• Pretending you’re smoking when it’s so cold that that steam-like thing comes out of your mouth.
• Writing 07734 on your calculator and turning it upside down so it reads “hello.”
• Jumping on bed or sofas.
• TV as background music.
• Repeating some part of a music that you like more than other parts.
• Imagining yourself in a movie fight scene and knocking out your enemies.
• Building a castle using bed sheets and pillows.
• Looking into a pipe and pretending you’re a pirate.
• Drawing on the steam on the car windows.
• Lying when you didn’t need to and you don’t know why you lied.
• Claiming you have ability and talent when you finished the game completely out of luck.
• Licking yogurt lids.
• Walking along the fences and touching it.
• Peel the paint off the walls.
• Make a ring with our fingers and put it under a stream of water so it wouldn’t touch our hands.
• Trying to connect two magnets with same poles.
• Holding the ice cream stick in our mouth after we finished eating it.
• Drawing nonsense on paper or books during long phone calls or in classrooms.
• Hiding in clothes rack in malls.
• Forcing kids or being forced to talk to relatives on the phone.
• Imagining you’re driving a race car when you push the shopping cart in the mall.
• Checking if somebody sees you after using the bathroom so you can skip washing your hands.
• Sitting next to your parents watching TV but not loving a muscle so they don’t notice it’s past your bed time.
• Acting suspiciously when you see a CCTV in the store.
• Being super concerned about the Bermuda Triangle.
• Opening the battery lid on TV remote.
• Mixing different soda flavors.
• Putting glue on your hand and peeling it off when it’s dry.
• Making origami fortune tellers.
• Practicing your autograph.
• Shampoo mohawk.
• Lying to children.
• Eating too much that you fall asleep.
• Getting stressed for no reason.
• Ending lists on random numbers and items just to mess with you.